Sunday, September 30, 2018


My Early Years

     I was born on April 4th, 1942 in Denver, Colorado.


     My parents, James Lewis Wuergler (who everybody called Lew) and Dorothy Dean O’Reilly (who everybody called Deanie) were married on Christmas Eve of 1937.


     I wish I knew the real story of how they met but I think it’s close to being introduced by mutual friends. Dad was a salesman and Mom had been singing around town with the big bands under the stage name of Kay Robinson. I have no idea why it took five years for me to come along, but it did.

     Dad was born in Tioga, Colorado, an old coal-mining town that no longer exists. He had three younger sisters, Mae, Mildred and Marjorie.

   
     I sure loved my Aunts and their families.

     Our first home was an apartment building on 14th and Downing Street. My Grandfather, James Henry Wuergler (who everybody called Jim) came to visit quite a bit as I recall.


     I remember that he worked in the Clover Club potato chip factory and would take us on tours, just to eat a chip hot off the conveyor belt.

     We moved to Glencoe Street just after I learned to walk and after my brother Larry was born.


     That home was really interesting because it was what they called a Duplex – two residences under one roof.

     The living situation was also very interesting because my Grandmother, Dorothy Dean Kurland and her third husband, Max Michael Kurland (for whom I am named) lived in the other duplex along with her mother (my great-grandmother) Florence Lucinda Daniels. So, the entire family lived together. I never thought much about it as it seemed quite natural to me and it was actually quite fun. You probably know the old saying that if “mom says no, ask grandma” so Larry and I spent nearly just as much time in their house as we did in ours.


     It was a wonderful neighborhood and I had terrific friends my own age in almost every other house on the block. We stayed out until dark or until Mom would “whistle” us to come home. We went to the Saturday morning movies together then would come home and make up games for whatever the movie theme was for that day – cowboys and Indians, swashbuckling knights of yore, pirates of the high seas, or cops and robbers – we had great fun a great imaginations.

     As soon as we could ride bikes we went everywhere on them. Almost without limits it seemed. Youth football league (I was on the Bombers) in the fall and baseball in the summer. We rode to school as well. And (shudder) no helmets. Mr. Wilson lived on the corner of 7th and Glencoe and his was our favorite house of all…because he was a candy broker and his basement was lined with shelves of every kind of candy known to mankind. We were always asking him if we could shovel his walk or rake his leaves because he never paid us but let us sweep thru his basement for as much as we could carry out in two hands. He was also our first stop on Halloween.

     Mom was born in Dallas and had two brothers, Sherman and Danny.


     Grandma Dorothy was only 15 when she married Lawrence Sherman O’Reilly (he was just 17) and had Mom three years later. They looked like sisters growing up.


     Mom’s younger brother, Danny, was a B-29 pilot who was killed just at the end of World War II in 1945 as his plane took off from the island of Guam. It was really tragic because it was a saboteur who bombed the plane. One of my most indelible memories as a little kid was going to a memorial service put on by the Navy and which had a great deal of cementing a lasting impression of how the military honors their fallen heroes.

     All 14 of the families of that B-29 crew were brought to the naval base in San Diego, got onboard a light cruiser naval ship and steamed out over the horizon where we rendezvoused with a submarine that had a deck covered in gigantic floral wreathes. They brought everyone to the port side of the ship, read the names of the fallen airmen over the loudspeaker, played the Navy Hymn, fired off a cannonade gun salute, and played “Taps” as the submarine submerged, leaving the flowers floating on the surface of the water. Mom had her brownie camera and snapped this picture just as the sub was going under.

     It is one of my treasured memories and one that locked in my love of those who serve our country and, most especially, those who have given the last “full measure of devotion” as they fought and died for our freedoms and liberty.

      I would come to love the game of baseball as I started on the 6th grade team at Fulton Elementary School and would play on Little League Teams all through Junior High School.


     My Mother had a saying for just about everything and one that has stuck with me is that “music is not an elective, but part of your education”. We got a piano when I was five years old and I started lessons right away. Trust me, at first I would much rather be outside playing ball with the gang than sitting there doing scales and learning tunes and, of course, feeling like a prisoner in my own home. 

      But, one day, my Dad’s boss came to town. 


     Mr. Franks, a kindly man, came to the house and literally rocked my world when he put on gloves and started playing the wildest honky-tonk tune I had ever heard. Then, he wowed me yet again when he asked for a bedsheet and covered the keyboard and once again, played out a tune that shook the room. I was absolutely mesmerized and right then and there, resolved inside myself to practice and practice until I could play like Mr. Franks. No more a prisoner of lessons, but a willing practitioner who would go on to let music pay my way through school.

     We started going to church around the corner when the Pastor stopped by and invited us to join his congregation. We were a real mix of religions in our two households. Mom had been a Catholic and Dad family was Nazarene. Grandma was currently a practicing Christian Scientist and Papa Max was Jewish. So, with all of that as background, we became a one-church family, joining Gloria Dei Lutheran Church, where I went to Catechism School and served as an Altar Boy for many, many years all throughout elementary, Junior High and High School. 

     I also became the groundskeeper for the church and watered and mowed the lawns at both the church and the home where the Pastor and his wife lived over on the next block. When my piano playing got good enough, I also started playing the organ for our services while Mom sang in the choir. Throughout all of my school time, however, I would also attend services at the local Jewish Synagogue with Errol and his sister, go to Catholic Masses with Karen and her family, attend the Methodist services with Charlene and Russell, and also make some good money playing the organ for the Presbyterians.

     We moved to a brand new house out in Aurora, and if I remember correctly, it cost us $4,900. It was on the corner of East Lowry Place (the Air Force Base was at the end of our street) and Fulton St. It was a much bigger house than our duplex and had a giant basement and a huge backyard.


     And, to keep our family close by, Grandma Kurland and Great-Grandma Daniel moved to the house right across the street.

     Papa Max had, sadly, passed away back in 1951 and Mama wanted to stay close to us. It was still fun to have her there, but it was no longer under the same roof.

     I started the 5th grade at Fulton Elementary School and something wonderful happened when Shirley Schrader, the music teacher and band director approached me and my family and wanted to know if I would be willing to learn to play the trombone and be in the band. Wow! I jumped at the chance to do that, mainly because Mrs. Schrader was providing the instrument and would start me off with free lessons as well. When the Air Force Academy opened their temporary quarters at Lowry AFB in 1955, I started taking trombone lessons from the first-chair trombonist as well as got some training from Sgt. Bill Stokes, the Academy Band Drum Major which would really pay off when I got to High School. And…even better, I wound up winning a full-ride music scholarship to the University of Colorado, all because of my beloved Trombone. Thank you Shirley Schrader!

     One more grand memory of my childhood. One hot summer, all of the living Wuergler family gathered in the City Park of La Junta, Colorado for a reunion. I was pretty young (you can see how young in the group photo) so I don’t recall a lot about it. 


     But, just studying the photo, I can see Dad’s sisters, his grandmother, my great-grandmother and her fifth husband. I think the reason there are so many cousins at this event is because great-grandmother wound up outliving all five of her husbands and, amazingly enough, having at least one child by each of those husbands. It made for a rather large party as you can see. And, it also made it really hard to try and figure out who belonged to who. At my age, I didn’t even try…now, of course, I wish I had done so.

     We lived in the Lowry Place home all throughout my elementary and Junior High years. It was in the 5th grade that I took up magic, which is yet another hobby that would bring in some cash as I occasionally hired myself out for birthday parties and bar mitzvahs and even one big show for the American Legion Christmas Party.    

What fun magic was…and still is!

     I have such wonderfully warm memories of my early years. Loving and being loved by my family.


 
     And, I loved getting to know my Dad's parents, Grandma Ethel (who lived to be 100 years old) and Grandpa Jim. What dear, dear souls they are.

     And, of course, on my Mom's side, I lived with wonderful women. Great-Grandmother Florence also lived to be 100 years old. You may recall from an earlier article that I got to actually see the broken bricks of the foundation of the home in which she was born in Poplar Creek, Mississippi.


     I have come to love my ancestors, and I am trusting that those who follow me in the Wuergler line will come to love them as I do.

Friday, September 28, 2018


Our Wedding Day

     We were up at 3AM on the morning of March 22, 1975. That’s the day that we were to be married for as long as our time on this earth would last and throughout all of eternity beyond that. 


     In the pouring rain we drove the 40 miles from my new home in Anaheim to the Los Angeles Temple of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints in Santa Monica. 


     This was the very first time in the Temple for both of us and someone had suggested that we do everything we needed to do in one day…both the Temple Ordinances and our Sealing Ceremony. Right after our Sealing, we drove out to a dear friend’s home where our Reception was to be held. It was a great start to what would be a very, very long and eventful day.

     Sherry was truly beautiful on that special day and I was beyond thrilled to now be married to this wonderfully precious girl. We hung around the Temple Grounds for a while to take some pictures. 





     The early-morning rain had stopped and the landscaping was spectacular. 


     We were deeply in love that day, and I want you to know that such a love continues to be deeper and deeper with each passing year. As I write this, we have been married now for 43 years, 6 months and 6 days…and, trust me, it keeps getting better.

     Our friends Glenn and Ethylnn Glancy had a spectacular home in the very upscale LA suburb of San Marino and they were gracious enough to allow us to use it for our reception. 


     Because of my special event work at Disney, I had some terrific and very creative contacts who helped me pull this party off well. Jacob Mars was the extremely talented florist that we used for every one of our special Disney dinners and he designed all of our floral displays.


     My good friends and creative collaborators, The JustUs Brothers, Dan, Bobby and Nick, set up outside and rocked the place for the entire afternoon.

 I also hired a String Quartet who played with the Pasadena Symphony Orchestra and had them set up indoors. So Classic inside and rock ‘n roll outside. 


     What a party.

     Our cake was spectacular and really delicious.



     Our reception line seemed to be unending as long-time friends, great co-workers and dear friends from church filed past with tender good wishes for us.



     It was a fabulous day.

     One particular thing I will never forget from that day was the moment in which I had a monumental paradigm shift. We were standing in the reception line greeting our guests.



     Little Debbie, 8-years old at the time, tugged on my coat, looked up lovingly and asked, “Daddy, can I have a drink of water?”

     Up to that moment in time, I was “Mike” to her…but in that next heartbeat, she gave me a new name…she called me “Daddy”.  I will never forget that moment because that’s when my world truly changed. Sherry, Todd, Debbie and I were now a forever family.

     At the end of the reception, we packed up the car, Todd and Debbie went with Karen and Dennis to their home in the mountains to spend a few days, while Sherry and I headed home to Anaheim to start our Honeymoon.

     With all of our hoity-toity reception, you would think that we would fly off to some exotic tropical paradise for our Honeymoon, right?



     Nope…we stayed in our new little house and re-did the kitchen. Boy, are we a couple of “romantics” or what?!?!?